There are many things to consider before filing for divorce, and the right timing is one of them. The holidays can be a time full of warm, family-filled memories. If you have children, you want to keep the good feelings alive during this time. But delaying divorce may not be the right answer, depending on the situation. Here are 5 things to think about before filing for divorce during the holidays:
1. Are you in immediate danger? If you are being abused or feel the threat of abuse, then there is no ‘good timing’ to consider. File for divorce and seek safety for you and your family immediately.
2. Will it come as a surprise to your spouse? If divorce is surprise news to your spouse, it may be better to wait until the added stress and chaos of the holidays have passed.
3. Is your relationship amicable, or are tensions high? You want memories of the holidays to remain happy and warm in your children’s minds. If you are fighting and screaming at each other, that won’t help the situation. If things are amicable, you can both maturely agree to wait until after the holidays for any significant family structure changes.
4. Will extended family visits act as a support or add to the stress of divorce? Your mother, aunts, and grandparents may offer the support that you need during your life transition. It may be an excellent time to file for divorce when you have them visiting and have a shoulder on which to cry. If questions and prodding from family visitors would add to your stress, then maybe you would like to wait until their visit is over.
Divorce is a big life decision, and there is no perfect time to file for divorce. The most important thing to do is communicate with your partner and make a decision on which you can both agree.
At Miles & Hatcher, LLP, we have your family’s best interest in mind. When you meet with us, we will discuss the best time for you to file for divorce. We will lay out a detailed plan on what a divorce timeline might look like. Gaining that information can help you make a better decision that best fits your family. We offer a free consultation with the first appointment. Call us today at (909) 481-4080.